Message to my beautiful young women

 

 

You have to know your worth, whether others are convinced you have any or not. If I placed my worth in the hands of other people and how they decided to view me, I would be on some shaky ground. Luckily, my worth is not placed in the hands of man, but God himself and if it was not for his grace, I would not be who I am and what I am today.

As individuals, we are valuable and all have purpose in our lives whether a person decides you are valuable or not. We typically seek acceptance from others and sometimes validation, and that can create people bondage. What if they do not like me? I wonder if they will be accepting of me despite if I have flaws or fail. You cannot place your self confidence in any other persons hands but God. By focusing on his will  and how he desires your life to be designed, you could never fail. God does not promise that there will not be trials and tribulations but he encourages us to lean into him in these times. Romans 8:28 teaches us that ALL(good and bad) things works together for the GOOD for those (yes even you!) according to HIS purpose. Not a man you desire to like you, not your boss for a promotion, but God. It takes the pressure off of trying to become what someone else would think we would need to be. You have a father, his name is God, he has a son named Jesus and those are the only two you need to seek.

As a wonderful blogger stated in her blog unashamed growth, “Don’t ever argue with someone over your worth. Don’t ever try to work to show someone you are worth love, respect, honor, or good things… God clearly believes in his work. Be confident in who you were created an the benefits that come along with it.”

So put your efforts into getting to know God and his Son, there is nothing but peace and prosperity on this side of eternity. Redirect your focus.  I hope this can encourage and benefit some person out there.

 

 

 

 

 

Praise Report!

Praise report!

I joined the choir! It was all by accident, but then again there are no such things as accidents, I was called to serve and I answered. I am going to be honest, I can hold a tune, but I will never claim to be in the rankings of Whitney Houston, or Mariah Carey. I am simply able to effectively hit notes. I had my first lead in singing a few weeks ago and it was great! I loved singing in front of the church and making people really express their joy for the Lord. It made me feel like I was impactful.

I also wanted to find a way to really relate with my church community. They have really been impactful and important in my life. They are there to help guide me in my spiritual quest in finding my way with God. He is awesome to have given me a place to really be able to learn how to serve, fellowship and be close with him. God is always on time. Thank YAAAA! LOL.

In baby news, my little London is now a 6 month old scooting/squealing/active grabbing machine. She has really blossomed into an active little baby! She is so fun to be around and she is always happy. We were in the store shopping for Groceries yesterday, and I had her in the carrier, because it’s far easier to just maneuver with her on me then in a bulky infant car seat. She kept bouncing indicating that she wanted me to sing and dance while she was in the carrier. Of course people who know me, know that I was up for it. I had a ton of people smiling at her and I as we walked around the store bouncing, laughing (Baby giggles), smiling, and dancing away. Boo Boo has quite a personality!

Here are some pics of me and my Lon Lon(She is starting to get quite a few nicknames)

2015

Well I made it another year,

I left all of my difficulties that I was having in 2014. 2014 was a great year, and also a true learning experience when it came to who I was emotionally. I learned that my heart could swell more than I could imagine for my child, I learned that my heart is still compassionate, that I still could care about other individuals other than myself. That is in terms of friends and family that have really been there to help me with my transition from being just one individual to a mother. In 2014, I found that my connection with God grew. That I need God to center my life, I am learning to trust his timing and his will and to not look at my life plan that I want when I want it. I learned that that is how you block blessings. I have learned to emotionally let go of what I cannot control, to  understand that the picture in my head of how my life is supposed to be does not align with what God wants for me, and also, what my reality is. Focusing on his will and timing is key to peace. I have learned to accept my reality and that truly took, prayer, reading the bible, and talking it out to come to that conclusion.

I’ve learned that I must stand up for myself, no matter what or who persecutes me , that I have a voice and it matters too. I have learned to say no, and saying no for me is very difficult. I am learning saying no to someone can truly show who they are. I have also learned to edit myself and not to be as descriptive, that no matter how hard I try to explain how good or honest my intentions are, that there are those who just want to argue, or are committed to misunderstanding me.

2014 also showed me that I am strong, strong as hell. Most people would cry with some of the things that have been thrown at me. I mean the kitchen sink, the washer and dryer, everything you can imagine has tried to test me. I have learned not to react emotionally, that although my feelings are important and are valid, that my child comes before all of that and nothing will ever compromise that. I have learned that I am a Mama Bear in every essence, that my child will bring out the protective instincts that a mother has and is very  surprising but a very powerful force to be reckoned with.

 

I have also learned that my purpose and my child’s purpose in others lives is to enrich it and make it better, but it is up to those people to be open to accepting blessings or blocking them. That my child is here to center and grow my life as well as her other parent. I have learned that  the whole idea of how a family should look like in my head might not be my path, but a blended family may be my destination.

I have grown, and I have so much more growing to do and with God, and growing my faith in him and learning to be a good example of a woman to my daughter and focusing on those things, will make for a really good life. 2014 was good, but something tells me that 2015 is going to be amazing. My tests, trials, and tribulations will continue, but as long as I look to my faith and surround myself with people who want to see me succeed and will tell me when I am making mistakes to help me see what is more important, then I cannot lose.I have some goals for 2015 and they are already being worked on. Growing my faith, being the best mother I can be, focusing on being happy for what I do have, being joyful, encouraging others, being me! Oh and fabulous hair!

 

How do you think 2015 will be to you?

 

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